Starting college is an exciting time! But for many, it’s also the first time they’ve been away from home for an extended period.
Moving from the comfort of familiar surroundings to a new environment can be a bit of a shock, and feelings of anxiety or homesickness can cast a shadow on the excitement.
If you’re finding it harder than you expected to settle in, you’re not alone. It might seem like everyone else is jumping into college life headfirst, while you’re still finding your footing, but here’s the truth: almost everybody feels this way at first.
And it’s perfectly normal. After all, you’re adjusting to a new routine, new friends, a new everything! That’s a lot to take on all at once.
If you’re missing home, we’ve got some tips to help you get grounded again, plus local resources in the Western Tidewater area that can help you feel more connected to your community.
What homesickness can look like
Sometimes, it’s the little things we miss the most when we’re away from home, whether it’s your old routine, the familiarity of your childhood bedroom, or cuddles with the family dog.
It’s completely normal to miss those home comforts. But when homesickness lingers, it can take a real toll – both physically and mentally – and it can show up in ways you might not expect.
Emotionally, symptoms look like:
- Feeling sad and crying
- Anxiety
- Irritability
- Difficulty concentrating
- Lack of motivation
Physical symptoms include:
- Stomach aches or nausea
- Headaches
- Sleeping too much or too little
- Lack of energy
Sound familiar? Try not to stress. We’ve got some tips to help take care of your mental health as you start this new chapter of your life. Little by little, you’ll feel better and better.
4 tips to cope with missing home
Homesickness doesn’t tend to clear up overnight. It can follow you around, weighing you down as you navigate your new campus and community. Here are a few things you can do to make the transition a little easier:
1. Bring reminders of home
Your dorm room or off-campus apartment is your home away from home, so adding little touches of familiarity can make the space feel more like it’s yours.
Bring your favorite blanket, photos of all your friends and family, posters or wall art you love, or whatever else makes you feel closer to home.
2. Spend time out of your comfort zone
This is a tough one. After all, our comfort zone is…comfortable! But you never know what could happen when you step outside of it. And the sooner you feel connected to your new community, the more at-home and less homesick you’ll feel.
Strike up a conversation with a classmate, ask someone to grab a coffee, or sit next to someone new at lunch. Check out the clubs your college offers and consider joining one – they’re a great way to meet like-minded people.
It might feel a little awkward at first, but beyond the initial discomfort, you’ll find new friends with similar interests.
3. Change your perspective
This is easier said than done, but it’s possible. Remind yourself that missing home doesn’t mean you’re not adjusting well. It’s a sign of how much you appreciate the life you’ve had and how much love will be waiting there for you when you go back to visit.
Try to look at your new life with a positive mindset, and as one full of opportunities. Tell yourself: “This isn’t easy, but I’ve got it.” It’s amazing what a difference positive self-talk can make to your outlook in times like these.
And remember to be patient with yourself. Adjusting takes time, and there’s no one ‘right’ way to do it.
4. Stay connected
With the latest tech in your pocket, it’s easier than ever to stay connected to home, even when you’re far away for a while. Make messaging, phone calls, or video chatting with family members a regular part of your routine. Even just sending a funny meme now and then can help you feel closer to home.
Checking in with your support network is important to help you feel less alone. But, relying on them too much can make homesickness worse, so give yourself space to create new connections. Finding that balance will help you fully embrace your college experience.
What to avoid when you’re feeling homesick
It’s easy to fall into unhealthy habits when you find yourself in new surroundings, dealing with the stress of a major life change. Drinking or using substances to cope might seem a quick escape, but they don’t offer real relief from your feelings. In the long run, they can leave you feeling worse – more disconnected, anxious, and depressed.
Try to focus on healthy ways to manage your emotions instead, like going for a walk, journaling, or reaching out to someone you can trust for a chat.
Local resources in the Western Tidewater area
Missing home is tough, but having local support can make a big difference. Whether you’re going to college in the Western Tidewater area, or you want something to get involved in when you visit home, these resources will help you stay connected.
Public libraries
Your local library is more than just books! Check out what’s going on in your area for something fun to fit in your schedule.
Suffolk Public Library has something happening every week for all ages, from game nights to book clubs. It’s a great (and free) way to meet new friends and feel more in sync with your community.
Volunteer
We can’t think of a better way to get involved than helping others. Volunteering can help you get to know new people, channel your feelings into something positive, and make a difference.
The Boys & Girls Clubs are always looking for volunteers. They have locations across Virginia, with one nearby in Virginia Beach.
Talk to someone
It can be frustrating to feel like you’re doing all the right things, but your homesickness is still hanging around. If you’re struggling, professional help is available.
Western Tidewater Community Services Board (WTCSB) is here when you need a little extra support. Our team offers compassionate, confidential counseling for those in Suffolk, Franklin, Southampton County, and Isle of Wight County in Virginia.
With crisis support, children’s and adult services, substance abuse treatment, and same-day access, we’re here to meet you where you are, without judgment.
Get in touch today to make it happen. And call our 24-hour emergency line at (757) 925-2484 if you need immediate assistance.